You may think that going to a movie on a first date is a good idea, but did you really think it through?
For women, we are excited to finally go to a romantic comedy with someone other than our mother, selves, or girlfriends. Is that how it really goes though?When you are going to go on a first date with a guy and he suggests going to a movie, here's what he's thinking: avoid awkward conversations, awkward silences, and hopefully sneak in some mild touching/make out sesh*.
Oh the differences between genders.
First of all, who is going to pick the movie? There's a 99.9% chance that you're not going to be interested in the same movie. Obviously you want to go to the Rom-Com, and he wants the action/comic-based movie. He will probably let you choose the movie, but you'll have to make up for his pain with some sort of pleasure. Yes, I'm speaking sexually, or at least something close to it like a parking/make-out sesh. It's only right!
So now that you've decided on a flick, your man is supposed to offer snacks. What if he doesn't? What if you want to pig out? You probably should have snacked before as to not risk looking like a hog with your giant Coke, buttered popcorn, and family sized Reeses' Pieces. I hope he took out a loan for this date. Personally, I pack my own snacks for movies to avoid going into debt, but that would look weird. As if you thought he wouldn't offer, or can't afford it. Now you're just rude.
I know that I mentioned earlier that men think that they are avoiding awkward situations by choosing a movie date, but this just creates different awkward-ness. Obviously the dance of who pays for what (food, tickets, spring for VIP seating, 3D upgrade), but that's unavoidable during any first date. The main culprit of the awkwardness happens during the movie. Theater seating is less than intimate, unless you can lift of the armrest. You just met this guy, do you want to cuddle? Should you cuddle? Is it a cuddling type of movie? Does he try to hold your hand? Will he put his hand on your leg? The worst is probably during a steamy scene. Avoid eye contact, unless you are trying to get it on afterwards.
Movie dates are good in theory, but it lacks the main component of a first date: actually getting to know the person! You don't have a chance to chat other than about the movie afterwards. Whether they were as into the shirtless guy on screen as you, shouldn't have anything to do with going out with them again. If a movie date is unavoidable, I have some advice for you. Compromise when it comes to choosing a movie; choose the action flick with a lot of shirtless guys. Suggest getting dinner before, or drinks after. You may learn something about this person that could help you choose a movie that you both would like. Also, you will have a chance to get to know their personality. Only then will you be able to judge whether or not a heated make out sesh is necessary.
*sesh - abbreviation for session. deal with it.
